Why Is My Hypermobile Teenager Always Exhausted? Understanding Fatigue

Jan 10

4 min read

What Every Parent Needs to Know About Energy Drain in Hypermobility

Your child gets a full night’s sleep - but wakes up tired. They rest all weekend and yet they still feel drained. They skip a social event or miss school because they’re just too wiped out. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone in asking: “Why is my hypermobile teenager fatigued?”

For teens and young adults living with hypermobility, chronic fatigue is more than just tiredness. It’s a deep, ongoing exhaustion that affects every part of daily life and it often gets misunderstood or brushed off.

This blog is here to help you understand what’s causing the fatigue, how it’s connected to hypermobility, and what you can do to help your child manage their energy, reduce flare-ups and feel more in control of their body whether at university, school or working.

Why Does Hypermobility Cause Fatigue?

Hypermobility might be known for bendy joints - but its effects go far beyond flexibility. Many of the same underlying issues that cause joint instability also contribute to extreme fatigue. Here's how:

🌀 Overworking Muscles

Why is my hypermobile teenager fatigued all the time?

Due to ligaments being lax, muscles have to work harder to keep joints stable. Even basic tasks like sitting upright or walking to class require constant, low-level muscular effort, which drains energy quickly.

💡 It’s like running a marathon every day, even if they’re not doing much physically.

🧠 Autonomic Nervous System Dysfunction (like POTS)

Many hypermobile individuals also experience dysautonomia, which affects blood pressure and heart rate regulation. This can lead to symptoms like:

Dizziness when standing
Brain fog
Low stamina
Feeling lightheaded or nauseous

🛌 Non-Restorative Sleep

Even when they sleep for 8-10 hours, many hypermobile teens wake up feeling like they never rested. Pain, joint discomfort and anxiety can all interfere with sleep quality, preventing proper recovery.

🔥 Chronic Pain & Inflammation

Persistent joint pain signals can overstimulate the nervous system, leaving the body in a constant low-level stress state which is exhausting in itself.

How to Manage Fatigue in Your Hypermobile Teenager

Now that you understand what’s draining their energy, let’s look at how you can support them with practical and realistic strategies.

1. Encourage Smart Pacing (The Spoon Theory)

Help your hypermobile child learn to manage their fatigue by pacing their activities based on energy levels. The “spoon theory” is a great verbal technique: every day you have a number of spoons of energy, different activities cost different numbers of spoons and once they’re out, you need to rest and recharge.

✅ Help them plan:

School in the morning, rest in the afternoon
Short, manageable social plans (e.g., 2 hours instead of a full night out)
Spread out errands, studying and physical activity

💡 Tip: Use planners or apps to map out their week—including downtime.

2. Build Gentle Movement into Their Day

It might sound counterintuitive, but light, regular movement actually boosts energy over time by improving circulation, reducing joint pain, and supporting muscle function.

✅ Best options:

Short walks
Resistance band exercises
Modified yoga or Pilates
Swimming or aquatic therapy

🚫 Avoid high-impact, high-exertion activities unless cleared by a physiotherapist.

3. Prioritise Quality Sleep

Your child might be sleeping but are they actually resting? Creating better sleep hygiene can improve their physical recovery and reduce fatigue.

✅ What helps:

Going to bed and waking up at consistent times
Using a supportive pillow or mattress topper for joint comfort
Reducing screen time before bed
Trying calming routines like meditation or Epsom salt baths

💡 Tip: Encourage them to treat sleep as a key part of their wellness plan, not an afterthought.

4. Keep Them Hydrated & Fuelled

Dehydration and blood sugar dips can significantly worsen fatigue, especially in teens with dysautonomia (common in hypermobility).

✅ Support them with:

Plenty of water and electrolyte drinks (especially if they feel dizzy often)
Balanced meals with protein, complex carbs and healthy fats
Small, frequent snacks to maintain energy

💡 Tip: Watch for patterns - does fatigue spike after certain foods or long gaps between meals?

5. Support Their Mental Health

Fatigue isn’t just physical - it affects mood, motivation, and self-esteem. Your child may feel guilty, lazy or frustrated that they can’t “keep up.” That emotional burden only adds to the exhaustion.

💬 Encourage open conversations:

“It’s okay to rest.”
“Your energy is valid, even if others don’t see what’s going on.”
“Needing breaks doesn’t make you weak.”

✅ Consider connecting them with:

A counsellor familiar with chronic illness
Online support groups
Guided meditation or relaxation apps to reduce stress

6. Work with a Physiotherapist or OT

A qualified physiotherapist can create a custom movement plan that supports joint stability without overloading their body. An occupational therapist (OT) can also help with energy conservation techniques for school and daily life.

💡 Tip: Ask about “activity modification” strategies, like using ergonomic tools, mobility aids or adapted school supplies to reduce physical strain.

Conclusion: Fatigue is Real - But It’s Manageable

When your hypermobile child is always tired, it’s not laziness or a lack of motivation. It’s a very real, physical response to what their body goes through each day.

The most powerful things you can do for them is:

✅ Believe them.

✅ Help them manage their energy wisely.

✅ Give them the tools to advocate for themselves.

With the right support they can learn to live well, even with low energy days.